Becoming who we are
We are born with certain innate settings - but apart from that, life is a neverending process of learning and formation. Some things are taught to us explicitly - such as e.g. eating with chopsticks. Many things are picked up more or less subconsciously, simply through experience - such as avoiding hot objects. Even more things are learned by observing others - sometimes consciously, sometimes not.
All this ends up forming our belief system - all the things we believe we know about ourselves, the world, what (not) to do, etc. Sometimes, experience may have taught us that life is hard - and sometimes, though we may not know why, we believe we "know" that we ourselves are not really worth much.
Obviously, such a belief will impact our lives heavily, including our relationships with other people.
Bad memories - or trauma?
Some life experiences are devastating, and may haunt us for perhaps many years afterwards. The simple difference between bad memories and actual trauma is that in the case of bad memories, we recall how horrible we felt back then - but no longer experience physical reactions now when thinking back (no such sensation as a lump in one's throat, a knot in one's stomach, increased pulse, etc.).
In the case of trauma, on the other hand, we are not just remembering something painful - we actually reexperience it every time we think about it. In such cases, therapy is about removing the re-experience - thus converting trauma to memory.
Possible (suspected) issues
The reasons for seeing a psychologist are too many to be recounted here - but some of the most prevalent examples that I work with are:
A stranger in a strange land
In the case of expats, there are certain risk areas that are wise to monitor. When people change their jobs, it usually takes two years to settle in completely - if we are talking about the same line of work, the same culture, and the same language.
Obviously, if any of the latter change as well, things become much more stressful, and because domains such as those mentioned here are not easily changed, a sense of loss of control often sets in - with good reason.
Such a situation may well lead to depression, marital discord, and other issues that by no means ease the original problem. Resolving such situations is very difficult without professional assistance.
● Specialist psychologist (Psy.D.)
● Specialist psychologist (Psy.D.)
in clinical child psychology
● M.A., B.A. (Psychology)
● M.A., B.A. (English and Classics)
Certification of qualification as a psychologist, recognised by all European psychologists' associations, including the British Psychological Society
I am a certified psychologist specialising in the fields of psychotherapy and clinical child psychology. I have been practicing psychology for 18 years, in addition to serving part-time as an External Lecturer with the Dept. of Psychologyatthe University of Southern Denmark, and now as a Visiting Research Fellow with the Research Unit of General Practice (ibid.).
I was raised bilingually (Danish and English [UK]), grew up with two cultures (including Catholicism and Protestantism), and have two passports. I originally pursued literature and linguistics, gaining an MA in English and Classical Philology, and adding a DipEd.
For 11 years, I taught English in Denmark at Upper Secondary Education (Sixth Form College/High School) level, before switching to Psychology as a consequence of my growing engagement in helping students with exam phobia.
In addition, I spent several years as a part-time translator of psychological tests and texts (Danish→English and English→Danish).
Therapeutically, I have trained extensively in three modalities:
▪ Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) in most of its forms, including third generation approaches.
▪ Couples and family therapy in the systemic-narrative tradition, having published both research articles and practitioner material within the field of family therapy.
▪ EMDR and ART therapy, working with PTSD and related conditions stemming from stressful incidents as well as developmental trauma.
Making an appointment
If you wish to book a session with me, the best way is to make a call, preferably before noon, to "Tidens Psykologer", where the clinic secretary will help you navigate all the practical details:
The clinic is situated in the heart of Odense, close to the town hall square - "Flakhaven" - and approximately ten minutes' walk from the railway station.
NB: I also offer sessions via encrypted video connection (therapy, counseling, and supervision)!